What is Your Attachment Style and What does it Mean to You?
Before we get into the nuts and bolts of how your attachment style can manifest and affect you and your relationships, what is it? Our attachment styles, or our sense of security in relationships with others, are based on attachment theory which was developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth in the 1960s. They identified … Read more
Using Your Break Up to Breakthrough
Some may think that there is an ‘appropriate’ or ‘healthy’ amount of time to mourn the loss of a relationship after a break up, but the aftermath of a relationship and time spent healing is as unique as the person experiencing it. Several factors impact the way we respond to loss of a relationship, and … Read more
Why Successful Women Are Often Unsuccessful In Finding Love
As a woman, you’ve achieved financial success, and career advancement, and while you are still evolving and growing (which all of us should constantly be doing throughout our life’s journey), you feel you have largely achieved your life’s goals. So if you’re so good at all of this and have proven to be able to … Read more
Could You be Experiencing Existential Anxiety?
Not many of us have heard of existential anxiety, but many of us experience it every day. According to Zia Sherrell, MPH, existential anxiety is “a feeling of dread or panic that arises when a person confronts the limitations of their existence”. Existential thoughts are those that focus on the meaning and purpose of life … Read more
Have you experienced Relational Trauma Response (RTR)?
Until recently, there has not been a way to concisely classify the hurt one experiences following traumatic events in an intimate relationship, commonly manifested as finding out your partner has an addiction, had an affair, made financial decisions without you, or just generally found out about a lifestyle that exists of which you had no … Read more
High Functioning Women and Trauma
When I see a successful, driven woman who has worked very hard to get where she is in life, my immediate perception is “wow, she must have it all together” or, “I wish I had her confidence”. Meanwhile, below these surface assessments of her character and situation lurks the hidden trauma and adversity that has … Read more
Being a Boss Bitch
As the modern occupational landscape continues to increasingly include female entrepreneurs, leaders, and professionals, we are also increasingly seeing a shift in our expectations of workplace standards and dynamics. It’s no secret that negative biases exist for women in the workplace, but what’s interesting is that other women tend to perpetuate these negative biases as … Read more
Does your partner leave you feeling accepted or anxious?
There are obviously emotionally and psychologically abusive partners, but what about the more covert type of emotional and psychological abuse or, even harder to detect, emotional neglect? Wouldn’t all relationships feel comfortable and harmonious if our partners made us feel accepted and therefore loved and confident that the relationship will be long lasting? How do … Read more
Salt Shaker FU’s
Hey, Y’all 🙂 Thought I would drop in on the Ask Jessica Blog this week and share a story. Not sure if you noticed, but a couple weeks ago, we featured an image on the blog of Jessica in her office. And in the background was a picture of a saltshaker filled with middle fingers. … Read more