Whoa, man! Being a single woman in the 21st century should be a piece of cake, right? Youtube tutorials on basic household hacks and repairs, delivery service for virtually any product we need, access to services, help, and support. So why is it so intimidating? For the most part, I stay away from the news, which I … Read more
Have you ever thought of yourself as a train wreck, or has anyone ever referred to you as one (or, i.e., basket case, crazy, hot mess, extra)? Labels are not easy to swallow, and as much as I teach self-love and advocacy to my clients, it’s curious that I may label myself with such a … Read more
Dear Jessica, I am a confident, intelligent, and independent woman who seems to attract insecure men. What gives? How can I spot an insecure man before becoming emotionally and physically invested? Sincerely, No Scrubs Dear No Scrubs, Maybe it’s not you, it’s them?? But really, insecure men are abundant – they are just usually better … Read more
Dear Jessica, I have had numerous casual hookups. Some men will kiss me goodbye, and some even want to cuddle, which I enjoy even if I don’t see them again. Recently I met with a guy who became a total jerk after we were done doing the deed, I went in for a kiss goodbye, … Read more
Dear Jessica, My boyfriend gets irritated whenever I cry. It’s not like I’m crying over a Super Bowl commercial or anything. Usually, it’s in response to arguments we have or when I’m feeling anxious. Why does he get irritated with me when I cry? Sincerely, It’s my RELATIONSHIP, and I’ll cry if I want to … Read more
Dear Jessica, I notice that I often feel like I don’t have an equal voice in my relationships with my partner. I don’t say how I genuinely feel sometimes because I’m afraid of making my partner upset. Why can’t I feel ‘ok’ about my feelings in my relationship? I can with friends and family, why … Read more
Dear Jessica, I feel like I attract men with narcissistic tendencies, and I’m worried about being love-bombed. How can I tell if that’s happening? Sincerely, Ticking Love Bomb Dear Ticking Love Bomb, I’m curious why you may be attracting men with those traits, but I suppose that’s meant for a different post. As for detecting … Read more
Dear Jessica, Why do I keep getting men who only want to hook up? Even the nice guys who seem to have potential ghost me. Sincerely, Ghosted and Afraid Hi Ghosted, Usually, when I hear someone notice that they can’t seem to nail down a partner who wants to take things further, even if it … Read more
Dear Jessica: Why do I feel bad about myself if I let a guy sleep with me on the first date? Sincerely, Laid and Confused Dear Laid and Confused: I’d like to think that since women’s suffrage in the United States took precedent more than 100 years ago, not to mention all of the other triumphant … Read more
Therapists do not take a “one size fits all” when it comes to treating their clients. Every individual has unique issues and goals for therapy. In general, you can expect to: Discuss the current events happening in your life and personal history relevant to your problem. Discuss progress and insights gained from previous therapy sessions. … Read more