Dear Jessica, I am a confident, intelligent, and independent woman who seems to attract insecure men. What gives? How can I spot an insecure man before becoming emotionally and physically invested? Sincerely, No Scrubs Dear No Scrubs, Maybe it’s not you, it’s them?? But really, insecure men are abundant – they are just usually better … Read more
Dear Jessica, I have had numerous casual hookups. Some men will kiss me goodbye, and some even want to cuddle, which I enjoy even if I don’t see them again. Recently I met with a guy who became a total jerk after we were done doing the deed, I went in for a kiss goodbye, … Read more
Dear Jessica, My boyfriend gets irritated whenever I cry. It’s not like I’m crying over a Super Bowl commercial or anything. Usually, it’s in response to arguments we have or when I’m feeling anxious. Why does he get irritated with me when I cry? Sincerely, It’s my RELATIONSHIP, and I’ll cry if I want to … Read more
Dear Jessica, I notice that I often feel like I don’t have an equal voice in my relationships with my partner. I don’t say how I genuinely feel sometimes because I’m afraid of making my partner upset. Why can’t I feel ‘ok’ about my feelings in my relationship? I can with friends and family, why … Read more
Dear Jessica, I feel like I attract men with narcissistic tendencies, and I’m worried about being love-bombed. How can I tell if that’s happening? Sincerely, Ticking Love Bomb Dear Ticking Love Bomb, I’m curious why you may be attracting men with those traits, but I suppose that’s meant for a different post. As for detecting … Read more
Dear Jessica, Why do I keep getting men who only want to hook up? Even the nice guys who seem to have potential ghost me. Sincerely, Ghosted and Afraid Hi Ghosted, Usually, when I hear someone notice that they can’t seem to nail down a partner who wants to take things further, even if it … Read more
Dear Jessica: Why do I feel bad about myself if I let a guy sleep with me on the first date? Sincerely, Laid and Confused Dear Laid and Confused: I’d like to think that since women’s suffrage in the United States took precedent more than 100 years ago, not to mention all of the other triumphant … Read more